Little Frolick

The aim of life is to live and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. - Henry Miller.

wedding bells again!

My best friend's wedding approaches! It's my second close friend to get hitched and once again i am bridesmaid! i am really making the curse come true, once a bridesmaid, never a bride... so like erm, twice a bridesmaid... ? not that it really bothers me, i have come to think that perhaps i will be happy to be a single mother at some point in my life. I really wouldn't know what to do with a husband if you gave me one.

this wedding is low key and DIY. in my house are boxes of flowers and bows and a wedding book that i made for her. we're doing everything on the cheap, and it's actually pretty exhausting work. thank goodness it's a small affair.

i am going to miss having her to party with all the time now that she's tied the knot is will soon be relocating. and the fact that she's choosing to stay in the midwest of the states over singapore says a lot i think.. i guess it's love?

 

And then another funeral. my uncle passed away, he was one of the funnier friendlier ones, who i havent seen in years. well, i will get to see him in the casket tonight at least, to say my farewells.

 

Me, i don't know what i am doing with my life in the meantime. it seems that my role in this life is to connect people and tie up loose ends for others.

 

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posted by: crysalis at 16:35 | link | comments |

happiness is not the lack of problems

January 8, 2007
Facing Problems
Running Away versus Moving Forward

There are times when change—moving to a new city or a new home, or changing careers—is the right thing at the right time. But there are also times when the urge for change is really just a desire to run away from problems that need to be faced rather than avoided. These are the kinds of problems that recur in our lives. For example, issues with coworkers that seem to arise at every job we take, or repeatedly getting into unhealthy relationships. A move might temporarily distract us, and even cure the problem for a time, simply by taking us out of the situation in which the problem fully manifested itself. However, the problem will eventually appear again in our new situation.

One way to make sure you aren’t running away from your problems is to notice whether you are moving towards something that is exciting in its own right, as opposed to something that is appealing only because it is not where you are now. For example, if you are leaving a city because you feel you can’t afford it, you could be reinforcing poverty consciousness, and you might find that you are unable to make ends meet in your new city as well. It would ultimately be less of an effort to stay where you are and look more deeply into your beliefs about money. You may discover that as you address these issues, you are able to make more money simply by changing your mindset. You may still decide to move, but it will be an act with a positive intention behind it and not an escape, which could make all the difference.

Any pain involved in facing our issues is well worth the effort in the end. When we face our problems instead of avoiding them, we free our energy and transform ourselves from people who run away into people who move enthusiastically forward.

posted by: crysalis at 17:45 | link | comments |

whatchacallit

do you love me like fireworks?

are you blind and ridiculous?

you see sparkles when you look at her, a million and one dreams fulfilled when she walks in through the door. stars lose their meaning and then suddenly you know you can die in peace.

you hear music when she speaks. you buy her a ring. you make her yours. you own each other. and then the world makes sense and so do all the problems you lived through. everything coalesces into a glowing, intangible orb that surrounds you both in a warm white light.

is this love?

is this love...

 

to everyone who tied the knot this dec/jan... happy happiness to you all.

 

xoxo

 

posted by: crysalis at 18:16 | link | comments |

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